I don't have a degree in anything, especially raising kids. I don't have a magic wand to make everything better. I don't know how the same male and female can have two kids that are totally opposite. I don't know how much I like it. The reason for this is you CAN see both sides of the story. You CAN understand how everyone feels, and you CAN'T do anything to change it. The fetal position is not an option......
I have the child that no one understands. I have a child that everyone understands. I have one that can't find a best friend to save his life, but wants one soooo bad. I have a child that has too many best friends, but is so confident she doesn't need one. I have a child that socially doesn't understand, but needs social in his life. I have a child that socially gets it all, but sometimes wants to stay home and veg. I beg mom's around me hinting to have my child over to hang out. I have mom's begging and hinting to me to have their child over to hang out.
I have both sides of the story and neither one is easy. I can't understand why you don't want to hang out with my child. I can understand why my child doesn't want to hang out with your child. How is this possible? To have your child home and safe where you know what they are doing is great, but aren't they suppose to be out with friends? To have your child out with friends all the time is so refreshing, but shouldn't they want to hang out with you and be home? How can this world be full of so much opposite in such a small home.
I do know that everyone should be nice. I do know that everyone has someone out their that needs a friend. I do know that this opposition has made my kids more aware of how people feel. It has made them understand that being nice is important. If anything it has made the confident one more aware of people that aren't "popular". My less confident one more aware of people that aren't "popular". It has made me confident that I am raising amazing kids, that I am proud to say are mine. Isn't that most important raising amazing kids. When this life of "popularity" ends, and they are all adults. They will be amazing.
